How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
He was your dream guy and you were so happy together, but he’s now gone. Maybe you really want to get him back and try things just once more but are not sure on how to go about it. Well, everything is possible if you do things the right way. He might resist or seem unavailable, but if you are serious about getting him back, you know that nothing should stop you! Here are four things you need to do in order to win your ex boyfriend back.
1. Find out what went wrong
The first thing you need to do to get him back is to take some time and think things out. Try to find what exactly went wrong (may be something you or he did) and why you broke up! To make things easier for you, you may want to try finding answers to certain questions such as:
- What was he saying before the breakup?
- Did you have frequent arguments?
- Were you (or he) found in a compromising situation with someone else?
Believe it or not, no guy will allow you back in his life if you still have no idea why you broke up. By taking the
time to find out the possible reasons for your being apart, you will find it easier to determine the best way to approach a reconciliation.
2. Find out if he still cares
Before you attempt anything to try to get your ex back, you need to be sure that he still cares for you. Yes, he might be
dating someone else but there’s a chance he still cares (for instance he asks your friends about you.) Knowing that your ex boyfriend still has some concern for you is a key sign that you can things still mend things. If he no longer cares, do n0t give up. Try to think of an easy and effective way to get him starting to care again.
3. Be at your best
If you want to win your ex boyfriend back, you need to look and feel your very best. You should start paying attention to your overall physical appearance. Get the nails & hair done. In addition, select some nice outfit, for instance a trending one. When you look your best, you will feel confident and be able to draw the attention of your ex boyfriend!
4. Focus on other things
Yes, you really want to have that boy back in your life, but it does not mean making him the centre of your life and thoughts. Try to focus on work, studies or find a new activity. Go to the library class, work out at the gym or hang out with friends. That way, you’ll cut down on the time you spend thinking about your ex and will feel much stronger as well as more in control over your life. It will also make your ex boyfriend think you’ve moved on and he might have “second thoughts”.
5. Reach out to him
Once you have thought things out and are sure you want your ex boy back, the next thing to do is to contact her. You can do this over the phone or in person, but make sure you keep the message both light and playful. Sending her a message such as “We need to talk” or “I want us to get back together” may not be a good idea as it is too heavy and may invoke the wrong “emotions” . Aim to show him the easy, relaxed version of you that he knew when you were starting out.
You could also let your ex know you have been thinking about him. The trick here is to do it in a simple way that will not make him uncomfortable. For example, send him a text telling him you were recently at a place that you used to hang out together, and that you thought of him. You can even ask how he is doing.