Getting a girlfriend, as many of us guys have learned, is often harder than it seems. Yes, women want to have boyfriends as much as we want girlfriends, but convincing a girl that you are the right guy for her comes with a few challenges. Ticking all of the required boxes demands a degree of understanding. There are some key psychological differences between guys and girls, and ignorance of these differences is often what sinks a guy’s ship when he is courting a girl he likes.
Guys are pretty easy to please. We want a cute girl who is fun to hang around with and who does not drive us crazy. These are fairly easy boxes to tick. Women, on the other hand, look for a guy who makes them feel a certain way about themselves. This is clearly a bit more complicated.
d good looks. While these qualities are not completely irrelevant, they are not the kind of qualities that cause a woman to fall for a guy on an emotional level. Charm, kindness and sense of humor are more important, but these are still secondary to how you make a woman feel about herself. Women want to be acknowledged, appreciated and adored. They want to be seen as the beautiful, sensitive individuals they are, and they want us to respect and love them for it. Women not only want men to find them attractive, they want men to admire them and make them feel special.
Rather than trying to impress a girl with your own attributes, impress her by acknowledging her attributes and how unique, special and wonderful they make her. This gives a girl that tingly feeling inside, which is exactly what you want if you are trying to make her your girlfriend.
A Lighthearted Approach
It may be a cliché, but women really do love guys who can make them laugh. You do not have to be a standup comedian to get a girlfriend, but being funny and witty certainly helps. A good sense of humor also shows that you do not take yourself too seriously, and that you would be fun to spend time with. When you are courting a girl, a lighthearted approach offers the best chance of success. Your early conversations should be fun and free-flowing, so resist the urge to ask her a series of banal questions, as this will feel more like a job interview than a date.
Put Yourself Out There
One way to improve your chances of getting a girlfriend is to spend more time around single girls. This may sound obvious, but a lot of guys sit home by themselves wondering why they are single. It is hard to win a game that you are not really playing, so get out there and meet more girls. Attend more social events, join a club or two, and take a cooking class…and do anything that will give you a better chance to meet that special person.